Quick Post, Real Reminder
And no, this isn’t about bashing the boys, but bolstering us babes, because having confidence is one thing, but centering yourself is a world unto its own.
Shuffling through many a saved and poignant note, this one fell through the cracks and deserves all the oxygen.
The example: When women (us babes) look at a job posting, we tend to over study the requirements like we’re preparing for the final exam of our life. Somehow some way, we think we need to be able to do 80%, 90%, maybe even 100% of the job before we feel qualified… ready enough to apply.
Meanwhile, on the XY side, the note stated that they can glance over the same posting, recognize three key words in the title, just hit “Apply Now”, and went on his way.
The confidence gap is wild. But what fascinates me most isn’t even the confidence, it’s the centering. The ability to remain so intentionally calm that obstacles barely register as obstacles at all. To not overthink, overanalyze, or create barriers before they’ve even appeared. That’s elite.
Now I’ve not only heard this but seen it the same with online dating.
I’ve never done online dating myself, but the one time I helped a friend build her profile, the group of us involved treated it like a glossy marketing campaign. Each photo conveying and capturing her entire, and truthful, story. Career, education, and world travel, weaved into a beautiful calm soul. A 10/10 catch accompanied with specific, fun-loving, and unambiguous wording. Once we were all impressed with our final take, she took in a deep breath, or ten, and hit send.
Then we’d scroll.
Umm… Sirs… plural, no doubt!! What in the actual hell???!!!
- Why is your profile photo taken in a public bathroom, with another man doing his business in the background?
- Why are you at home, maybe, in your bathroom with the toilet seat up?
- Why are you standing with 16 of your mates… which one is you?
- And what’s with all the fish posts?
But looking back, from now, their confidence, however? Immaculate. Top tier. Chef’s kiss. They literally didn’t give a damn about ‘the other perspective’. We could stand to borrow (or take back) a good chunk of that power.
And I’m not saying that that is always a good thing now, but you have to take a moment to dig into it and look for the why.
Us women spend so waaaay too much time making sure we’re qualified, prepared, polished, and ready that sometimes we forget we already are.
Maybe we don’t need less preparation.
Maybe we just need a little more of that ‘bathroom selfie and a dream’ energy -IreneB
So here’s your reminder
- Shoot for the stars.
- Apply/Put yourself out there before you feel perfectly ready.
- And take up space.
Because by the time most of us think we’re qualified, somewhere a man with a bathroom selfie, three known keywords, and an alarming amount of confidence already has. 😏
And if it doesn’t work out?
