• Woman in a haze of confusion

    Why Unlearning Is One Key to Growth in 2026

    I was speaking with a friend this morning who was doubting herself—her reaction to a situation she already knew the answer to—yet was still willing to give the offending person the benefit of the doubt. A person who, in my opinion, was way past that point and who earned all the doubt and zero benefit. I listened and in response I said my piece, spoke my truth, and she heard me. She’s my mate and I’d never steer her wrong, but when our convo was over it left me thinking: what if, in this season — still wintering, so to speak — and not rushing to force ourselves to learn…

  • The word CLAIM faded in the background with multi colored hands reaching

    I’m Not Revealing Myself in 2026, I’m Claiming It

    I’ve got it! It’s locked in, loaded, and ready to go. My word for 2026 is CLAIM. Behold and absorb the visual of me breathing a giddy sigh of relief. I flirted with some other real-deal contenders. But claim landed like a slap to the face that I soothed into sticking, and a friend helped me see why. Reveal wasn’t strong enough. For me, anyway. I didn’t need to show who I am. I already know. This year is about claiming it. Phase two of who the heck knows. Claiming the work I’ve been doing quietly.Claiming the parts of myself I held back while waiting to feel comfortable.Claiming forward movement…

  • Beach alcove with rusty 'Destination Reached' wooden weathered sign.

    A Reminder for Anyone Who Feels Behind Right Now

    One with a few words but giant vibes as we wrap up 2025. Here’s a snackable truth: the calendar may be running out, but you’re not. You’re still moving—sometimes with momentum, other times like you’re dragging a mountain in some dusty, worn-out flip-flops. Didn’t cross off all your finish lines? Shake it off, Luv. You’re exactly where you’re meant to be. Read this if you feel behind (though you’re not). You don’t need to rush this season I’m calling this an active change, and you’re allowed to keep going at this pace. You don’t need to justify your pace. It’s time for you to enjoy this, and all the seasons—tied…

  • COMPLETE sign board in my office with pink kid slippers and a coffee mug holding pens.

    My 2026 Word of the Year Will Pull Me Forward

    Because it has to! I thought choosing my Word of the Year for 2026 would feel easier, clarifying even with my word of 2025 working out so well–COMPLETE.Well, truthfully, it was my word for 2024 because, as you can guess, I didn’t COMPLETE it. Instead, trying to choose my word feels… revealing. I keep bouncing around words in my head that still keep asking me to step even more forward, and not pull back or chill for a second.None of my words are about becoming someone new—I like to adjust and edit as I go along now that I’m solidly in my Big Age. But they seem lockstep in fully…

  • Artistic Chaos Unleashed

    Messy Journaling: What Happens After You Start?

    So, did you start? And if you did, are you looking at pages and pages of random words, cut-off sentences, and scratched-out drawings thinking, Geesh, what the hell is going on here? It’s good, it’s all good! Because the thing you could easily miss about messy journaling: the mess actually leads somewhere. And no, it won’t necessarily all be wrapped up in a perfect and logical bow, but it’s not just venting, complaining, or scribbling random thoughts either—it’s a mirror. And if you’re willing to really look, that mirror gives you a pathway straight to your own growth. At first, messy journaling feels like you’re in pure survival mode. You…

  • Documents in Chaos

    Messy Journaling: Your Secret Tool for Better Stress Relief

    Two Moscow Mules, a Prosecco, and a deep conversation about something we all struggle with from time to time—managing our emotions, especially when other people, situations, or life itself unintentionally trigger them. One friend shared that she’d been trying to stay calm, respond better, not let things get to her—but sometimes, it just felt impossible. Think: “I know I’m being triggered, but I can’t seem to stop reacting. I don’t have control over it.” I’ve one hundred percent been there. Many times. Maybe, like me, you don’t yell or scream out loud—it’s more internal—but either way, you feel it. You’re not overreacting, being dramatic or ‘in your feels’, it’s real…

  • Death Meets Beauty Traditional tattoo design featuring a detailed skull opposite vibrant red roses, separated by light and connected by butterflies.

    Are you Team ‘Need’ or Team ‘Want’ in a Relationship?

    Yet another slight shift in my SincerelyIreneB posts, but not by my conscious choice, but this has been all over all my feeds for months, and my friend visiting got us talking about this exact subject. Not to mention, a week or so ago, two other friends of mine touched on this topic as well. What is it? The male loneliness epidemic. I’m gonna begin right out the gate with I know many, many a good man. Not the fake, mask-wearing kind, I mean, I do know too many of those, sadly, but I’m stating this so if you want to come at me as a man-hater type, then knock…

  • Digital Divine Priestess Bathed in magenta and teal light, the divine feminine emerges as a cybernetic deity manipulating holographic lotuses in cosmic darkness.

    How to Step In and Embrace Your Villain Era?

    Villain = Evil, wicked person. Within this popular term or saying, “I’m in my villain-era”, I’m not for one second buying the evil part, but the wicked part is in fact wickedly delectable to me. Not (no longer) giving a damn about what anybody else thinks, being the bigger person, or taking the high road isn’t about you now doing wrong to others who wronged you (well, not always), but about taking back your power to choose. It’s not about resetting your personality to be stuck on cruel, but to finally be selfish—in the most positive sense of the word. It’s a return to yourself. Disclaimer: Also, never be the…